A father at 60
By Kim Gilmore, PGATOUR.com staff
PONTE VEDRA BEACH, Fla. - Jim Dent wasn't around much after his two oldest children were born. Like most fathers of his generation, the 12-time SENIOR PGA TOUR title holder was busy providing for his family.
Things are different this time for Dent, who recently became a new dad at the age of 60.
"I do everything," said Dent, who along with wife, Willye, adopted 10-week-old twins, Joshua James and Joseph Samuel, in August. "Everything. That's part of the job, right?"
Not quite what you'd expect to hear from a burly, man's man who was born in the Depression era, played prep football with former New York Jets star Emerson Boozer and is a standout on the SENIOR TOUR.
From walks in the park to changing dirty diapers, nothing is beneath this father of five and born-again Christian. The Dents believe God led them to adopt the twins as a way of helping their 4-year-old daughter Victoria, who was also adopted, develop her faith.
"We actually feel like the twins were ordained to be in our lives," said Willye Dent, a lawyer-turned-stay-at-home mom. "Victoria kept putting pressure on us. She wanted a baby brother."
The Dents never bargained for two. But several months ago, a family friend and adoption agent told them about twin boys who needed a good home. Taught to pray for what she wants, Victoria launched a relentless vigil from which she could not be dissuaded.
"This conversation you heard at least four times a week," said Willye Dent, who added that Victoria turned up the heat when a family friend gave birth in June. "We tried to distract her."
"I said, 'Victoria, Jesus doesn't always give you a sister or brother.' She said, 'Well, then I'll take two brothers, and I'll name them Joshua and Joseph.' Just like that. Spoken. Period. The end."
The family prayed diligently. A week later, it was decided Victoria and her siblings Radiah Laceyette, 26; James Antonio, 23; and Jamie, 5, would get two new brothers.
"We had a lot of peace about it," Jim Dent said.
"Victoria believes in prayer, and she had been praying, so we had to consider that," Willye Dent said. "This was not just for Jim and I, this was also for her."
While friends and family are supportive of the Dents, others have questioned their decision to become parents again as they near the age at which most people are retiring. The tight-knight couple respect those opinions but politely remind them it's a child, not a numbers game.
"We've gotten all kinds of comments," said Willye Dent, who maintains that she and her husband are up to the challenge of rearing Joshua and Joseph. It's not easy, though. The Dents have someone who helps with the children full-time, but insist they could do it on their own.
"Jim is not physically 60," Willye Dent said. "He doesn't look it, he doesn't act it and he's a professional athlete. Still, some people do question whether we are a glutton for punishment. (But) this was an announcement, not a poll. We are the ones who are really blessed."
Jim Dent couldn't agree more.
"It's as simple as that," said Jim Dent, whose judgment has proven foolproof for this family so far. "People who know me know I'm going to do what I want to do anyway. So far, I've been right most of the time.
"We have a lot to offer."
And so do the babies.
Joshua is the quiet one. Joseph is more demanding. The twins watch each other closely. If you cradle one or feed the other, they often cry for equal time. Joshua sleeps through the night. Joseph likes to be held. Both like to take rides in the car with their dad.
"I can't wait to come home and see either of them," Jim Dent said proudly. "It makes you feel real special, the little things they do."
It's a feeling shared by other SENIOR TOUR players and their wives, who have either adopted or given birth later in life.
Two years ago, 56-year-old Dave Eichelberger's wife, D.C., gave birth to twins Emalia and Davis. Calvin Peete, 56, and his wife, Pepper, count daughters aged 6 and 3 among their seven children.
"I'm sure no one ever thought we'd get to the point where we'd need day care and maternity benefits on the SENIOR TOUR," joked Willye Dent.
The question is, would they do it again?
"I don't know," Jim Dent said. "You never can tell. Some kid may come by and look at me and I can't pass him up and can't kick him to the side. I won't say no. You never know."